Reinforcers: More Than Just Lollipops and Bubbles

When most of us think of reinforcers, we think of things like candy, high fives, and bubbles.  Obviously those things are only reinforcing to people if they enjoy those things.  It’s interesting to observe children because we see at a very young age what is and isn’t reinforcing.  When the baby spits food back into your face, I think it’s clear that either it’s really reinforcing to see your reaction, it feels good, or it tastes or feels really awful.

On my very first session with families I ask what is reinforcing to their child.  Sometimes families are quick to respond with:  his truck, cookies, or playing outside.  Those things can definitely be reinforcing to your child but there are so many other things that can also be reinforcing that you may not have thought of.

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Don’t Journey Alone! Find your Parenting Tribe.

 

I often hear comments from families about their fear and disappointment over what they could have done better.  What did I possibly do wrong?  Why isn’t my child talking?  He should be talking by now.  Why isn’t my child looking at me?  I call her name but nothing seems to work.  Parenting is the most difficult job in the world and we just don’t give ourselves enough credit.

We all make mistakes.  We all wish we could take back something that we said or did.  But most of the time, we are there for our children to support them, care for them, and provide for them the best that we know how.

 

 

 

I love the quote from Maya Angelou that goes something like:  “Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.”

I think this pretty much describes parenting.  We all do the best that we know how until we learn strategies and techniques.  Then we can definitely do better.

 

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